Who ARE You?

One day I was sitting next to a guy who is a millionaire in euros and as I suck at small talk, I said:
- Tell me your biggest secret!
He looked at me all confused, and after 10 seconds he replied:
- I masturbate every day.
…followed by a 2 seconds break, we both started laughing out loud.

We ended up having an amazing conversation, during which he did tell me one of his biggest secrets for a successful life (which I won't tell you, I'm selfish like that). I will tell you that he is older than my father, a very wise man, and that in the end he thanked me and said he had a great time talking to me.

The past 2 weeks have been life changing for me. I was out of my comfort zone for 10 straight days, attended 2 social events filled with amazing, super smart, successful entrepreneurs. I talked to people from more than 20 countries face to face, interacted like I never did before, and made a lot of friends. Most of these people did not brag to me about who they know, how much money they make or how important they are. They were all genuinely nice humble people, together in one place for one common goal: to grow the entrepreneurs communities world-wide…and they are not in it for money, but because they are passionate about it.

I also talked to people who believe that being cocky is what makes them special, that because they know a lot of 'popular rich' people they are better than others [me]. Patronizing assholes, who repeat themselves in a louder voice just because they got a 'lol' reaction from someone or because they just think that they said some cool smart shit, even if the words they said are offensive to other people in the conversation [me]. People who think that if they know the whole work background of some famous person, or random (from my point of view) facts about how they could potentially use them for self-interest to become famous as well, makes them better than me who I don't know these things.

Which type of people do you think I (or anyone else for that matter) respect more? I am a simple girl…I love doing basic things like eating cherries straight from the trees in my parents' backyard, or fighting to bring awareness to human rights, things that most likely seem lame to the second category of people I mentioned. I am driven by passion, I am impulsive and the best things that I do in life, from design to human rights to gardening, turn out the best only if I am enthusiastic about it. Cut off my enthusiasm and you'll get boring, inefficient results and reactions from me.

I love being around positive energy people, who do the things they do because they love it and they can hold a conversation about small things in life. I hate hanging around negativists who think that life revolves around how much money you can make or who you know. I admit I won't know all the celebrities, who does what and how important they are..and that is because I couldn't care less about these things. I only care about what you learn from the people you hang out with, and how you grow as a human being due to the contacts you have.

My point is that if you are in the first category, I will be your best friend and help you in any way I can. If you are in the second category, don't even bother talking to me, as I have no intention in helping you ascend on a social scale, just because I believe that people like you should just go fuck themselves and die (there goes my humanitarian side). Even if I would know things that would be cool to show off to you with, I'm over this shit since high-school, so I won't talk about them, and I will continue to let yourself look ridiculous in front of me…I will observe, hate you more, and evolve more towards being humble and nice, because world needs more people like the first category and I'd rather be part of that. I don't shut up because I am intimidated by you, but because I won't lower myself to your level of bragging and blowing your own horn. It might not make me rich in the long run, but it'll definitely make me a better human.

I only want to know who you ARE, not who you know. ok? ok.

There goes my monthly (or is it annual) rant about self-centered mother fuckers.

Love,
Anca

p.s. In case you don't know, here's the trivia fact of the day: 98% of men do masturbate for all of their lives, no matter how happy they are with their chosen one, or how hot and attractive these might be. It's just human nature, so if I'll ask you what's your biggest secret, don't answer that, as it's old news already. :)) Also, don't expect me to ask you what's your biggest secret, I rarely do it.

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UDHR - ARTICLE 19 | One Day for Human Rights

UDHR – ARTICLE 19

While some of us are taking it for granted, others sacrificed their lives for us to have it. It is given to us at birth, but it is taken away from hundreds of millions of people from their first breath.

People were killed for it since the beginning of time, in the name of power: religious (i.e. Inquisition), military (so many empires built on murder) or just the need of feeling superior (i.e. racism).

Having it makes us who we are, opens the gates of creativity, humanity, happiness. Being denied it makes us useless puppets.

It works on every level of society: from basic family relations, to work environment, to globalization of human interactions.

Used properly, it is responsible for our most wonderful creations. If used for the wrong reasons, it is responsible for the worst atrocities ever committed.

Somewhere in this world, there is a 63 year old woman in prison. She was rightfully elected as the president of her country and she won the Nobel Peace Prize for peacefully fighting the military regime that is killing, torturing and abusing her nation. Aung San Suu Kyi is the symbol of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights of our days, and she keeps fighting the military regime with nothing but wording her beliefs. Her beliefs that people are born free, and noone has the right to treat them otherwise. She said to the world: “Use your freedom to promote ours!

Do you know what freedom I’m talking about? Do you know what most of the unhappy people in the world need? Are you using it at it’s best potential, or you are just following others while denying your own right?

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Freedom of opinion and expression: individuals’ most powerful weapon, oppressors’ most feared enemy.

My favorite article from the Universal Declaration of Human Rights:
Article 19: FREEDOM OF OPINION AND EXPRESSION ARE GRANTED TO EVERYONE.

What is yours? Do you know what your rights are? Do you take them for granted? Please comment. Express your thoughts! :)

Also, don’t forget to print the UDHR poster (11×17in.- tabloid) (8.5×11in.- lettersize) and share it with everyone today. The world needs people to be aware of their Human Rights, we all need to read it at least once.

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To Care or Not To Care About Human Rights? | One Day for Human Rights

To Care or Not To Care?

When i was in high-school, whenever a person would show that they have feelings, they were considered to be a loser, the weak link of the group and everybody would make fun of said person. The normal next reaction would be friends not wanting to hang out with you, and because it was cool to bring down the person with feelings, they would stand you up, run away from you and laugh at you behind your back.

Rejection is tough to deal with, so you learn to shut down your emotions and play along. Before you know it, you only care about your well being. You don’t care about how bad you hurt other people, it doesn’t matter that you feel love and kindness, you have to act tough and cold in order to survive the angry mob mentality. Ignorance is celebrated, insensitivity becomes standard.

I was there, I know it’s true. I did my best to not show affection and love and the only consequence was that I hurt other people as well. I made others go through what i went through myself, I knew it and ignored it, and in the end I hurt even more.

Peer pressure is such a bitch! A lot of the human rights violations are the result of peer pressure, if you think about it: not having the strength to tell mean people to go fuck themselves resulted in racism, hate, violence, crimes against humanity. The way we interact with each-other, as society, never ceases to amaze me. We tend to follow others that we consider are cooler / better/ smarter than we are, and we ignore our beliefs who we really are. Personalities get shifted, feelings are being left out and we don’t care about anyone else but ourselves.

Care. That is what it all comes down to. At what point in our lives we learn to care not about how others see us, but about how truthful we are to who we really are? When do we feel strong enough to do something because we think we should, not because we are expected to or just because other people do it? When will we replace insensitivity and ignorance with care?

Why would you care that some women are being raped and murdered in South-East Asia, when you are so comfortable in this little coffee shop with your laptop and coffee? Why would you care that so many people starve to death in Africa, when you’ll go home and have your nice warm dinner? Why would you care that so many people are being abused and tortured, when you can just have your fun on your nice warm side of the world? Why would you care that so many people don’t have access to basic needs to live, when you want a better car?

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Because the more care you bring into the world, the less room there is for hate and sooner or later, this will benefit you as well.

As I write this I can’t help thinking about what will others think of me after reading it. Will I be misjudged and thought of as weak because I care? Thankfully I learned from my mistakes, and I am just doing what I think is right, and that makes me stronger.

There’s no point for freedom when ignorance is celebrated and I am done with being ignorant. Freedom of thought, freedom to be me, freedom to care.

Do you care? We’ll see tomorrow, December 10! :)

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Human Rights Day | One Day for Human Rights

Heyllo! My name is Anca, and I started One Day for Human Rights.

anca_avatar1There are a lot of human rights day sites / actions out there, so why start another one, you might ask. Because I wanted to do more than working for Jack Healey’s (Human Rights Action Center), and because I believe that more can be done than what’s out there so far.

I wanted to make something different than ask you to donate money for this cause: to bring awareness. Less than 5% of the worlds’ population heard about the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and probably less than that read it, even though i consider it to be one of the most important documents ever written. Have you read it? Do you know your rights as a human being? I know I haven’t until 4 years ago.

I grew up in communism until the age of 10. I remember very well the revolution to overthrow it, because we had to run away from home due to my family being in danger. My father was out there, risking his life to make a difference, while my sister, my mother and I were worried sick about him. When we went home, we had a bodyguard with a big rifle watching over us, and that made us feel very restless, worried and afraid. The presence of a gun around a child is such a wrong thing! Now, being an adult, I can only imagine all the child soldiers out there in Burma and  Darfur, not being protected by guns, but being forced to use them to hurt other people. Their future as adults is already decided, and I’m pretty sure that it  will not be a bright happy one.

I was lucky! Lucky to have had the opportunity to develop in freedom, even though I am sure a lot of the people in my country would disagree with me. Negativism, depression and fear for the future still rule Romanians, consequences of the 40 year long dictatorial regime not respecting the people’s human rights. It will take generations for the attitude of the people to change for the better, but I have faith that it will happen.

There are so many more reasons for me to be involved in promoting human rights, but I told myself I’ll keep this article short, for your sake :)

I know from experience that it is very hard to keep being motivated to fight for this cause. I’m a graphic designer, and never considered myself as an activist. The results come slow, the support is short handed and these can be very frustrating for someone used to getting immediate results from their actions. It is so much easier to donate $5 and sleep better at night because you ‘made a change’, but the real challenge is trying to make other people to believe in the reasons that determined you to donate the $5.

This is my challenge. This is the One Day for Human Rights challenge. If you are reading this it means you came to this website because you already are on my side (well, hopefully at least :)), but I wish that for one day a year, try to make someone else aware of the rights we all have as humans, have someone you know or you think they need it to read the UDHR, talk about it, spread the word. For you, as one person, the accomplishments will probably be small, due to the difficulty of getting people out of their comfort zone, but overall I believe that together we can make a difference. If the result we’re going to have is for at least one person to have a better life in this world, then I will declare this cause successful!

This cause was started by me, Anca. Even though I do work with Jack Healey and Human Rights Action Center, One Day for Human Rights is my cause, and I have noone else to support me except you, the people that care about these moral issues. I have no material incentive for you, as I have nothing to gain personally from doing this (well, except sleeping better at night :)), but I need your help and support more than anything. I need you to talk/write about human rights, for one day: December 10.

Will you? Would you? Should you? I believe that you should, as a moral duty to our world, but ‘will you’ and ‘would you’ I can’t answer. I encourage you to tell the rest of the world what are your reasons for supporting human rights in the comments section! Or, you can just write about it on your own blog, on December 10! *wink wink*

Thank you!
Anca

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poster for sale - money go to Human Rights Action Center

Heyllo My Dears! :)

Sorry to mass-email you, but I need your help in buying / or at least spreading the word about this: A friend of mine, Andrew Taylor, made a hand-made poster for Human Rights Day, and now he is selling it on e-bay, wishing to donate the money he gets for it to Human Rights Action Center.

This is what Andrew says about it: (you can read about this on his blog, too http://www.additivedesigns.com/2008/12/one-day-isnt-the-only-day/)

"Just because it's not December 10th doesn't mean it's time to stop thinking, and fighting, for Human Rights.

Specifically the Human Rights Action Center.

So! Here's the deal: The poster is now up on eBay and will be for 10 days. Whether or not you actually bid on it doesn't matter, just help spread the word so that we can find a nice philanthropist. Or, just bid a couple bucks.

I have no monatary goals for this poster and what I can donate to HRAC; if we even got this up to $20 I'd be overjoyed. Anything helps."


I am attaching a picture of this poster, and you can see details about his e-bay auction here:

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=260334226609


Thank you all for your help and support!

Love,
Anca

Twittetiquette? WTF!

i just woke up. in 5 minutes i get to read 3 different blog posts about 'how to behave on twitter'. so i get pissed off, as @mirkohumbert would've expected. Why, you might wonder...

BECAUSE TWITTETIQUETTE IS FUCKING RETARDED! that's why!

I haven't seen anywhere in the twitter terms that you must behave while on twitter, except the common sense rules, as in do not  abuse, harass, threaten, impersonate or intimidate other Twitter users. Nowhere does it say "do not @ to new followers" or "do not post more than 1 tweet in 15 minutes".

Where the fuck did all this shit started, man? who was the self-centered ass who thought it would be useful to the world if he would make everyone on twitter act according to his personal preference on how twitterers should act? Well, that person must be a angry, retarded, grumpy person, who thinks he's the center of the world, and his rules on behaviour must be known and followed by everyone who wants to be followed by said person.

In case you read this, you first person who wrote the first twittetiquette post, take a step forward. I would love to chat with you and piss the hell out of you, as you did me with this stupid retarded bullshit behaviour list of yours.

And then, for some odd reason, everybody considered it's ok to do it. Let's all fucking make lists with rules and boundaries on how and what to write in 140 char. messages. And then make a religion for us all on twitter to obey to. And then start throwing rocks at people that do not act according to our centralized system of @ beliefs.

What the fuck, man? Seriously, if you guys really feel like making a list on how people should act to not be unfollowed, at least have the decency to call the list "my twitting pet peeves" or something like that...do NOT make it into a general post on rules for how other people should act, that only makes you look like a self-centered bastard who tell other people how to be online. Who the fuck put you in charge with making rules for Twitter? What are you, Twitter police? And what are you going to do, throw me in Twiter jail for not complying to your stupid twittetiquette? HA!

In case you twittmilitary people haven't got to this page yet, here is the "How does it work?" page about Twitter:

"How does it work?

How does it work?

With Twitter, you can stay hyper–connected to your friends and always know what they’re doing. Or, you can stop following them any time. You can even set quiet times on Twitter so you’re not interrupted.

Twitter puts you in control and becomes a modern antidote to information overload."

SIMPLE ENOUGH FOR YA?

There's nowhere on there any fucking rule about how to reply to others or how often you have to tweet. IS IT??? So shut the fuck up with your stupid etiquette, and unfollow me if you don't like the fact that i have 5500 tweets in a month. News flash: I don't care one bit if you like me or not! You are the one that clicked the follow button to read about my life and see my personality. You didn't have to. So don't go and tell me how to act, ok? Just fucking unfollow and stay in your righteous little world, because honestly i don't want to know about your existence.

Love,

Anca

 

 

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